What I liked about the book is that it contains a bunch of interesting studies and genealogies about bisexuality, it's definitely academically well researched. It also brings home the point that you are allowed as a bisexual to really make a fuss about it (against so much pressure to be super whatever about it!). 

However, this book is in large part about biphobia rather than bisexual quintessial experiences and nothing was shattering to me. I wish the framing of the book had been a bit more positive for my personal needs. Despite the author's attempts, the main message of the book I got was that bi people are suffering and discriminated against – which in the context of advocacy is important, but personally not very empowering and made me feel less happy to be bisexual because it seemed to destine me for discriminations! I did love the section on gay animals.

The author notes that a perk of being bi is "freedom" – which honestly seemed like such a low bar. What I think the experience of bisexuality brings as an epistemic advantage in the world is the experience of gender fluidity and code-switching. I wish I saw a discussion about friendship, how to negotiate hypersexualization, and how to deal with compulsory heterosexuality which makes it SO hard just out of laziness and shyness to date gay, but the lessons we learn from it as well. Idk – I guess I wish this book left me more of an idea of what the needs of bi people are, what common challenges we face, and what bisexuality teaches us I feel like books like Ace by Angela Chen, The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Janet Hardy, The Other Significant Others by Rhayna Cohen are more inspiring reads about other types of relationship minorities written in a much more celebrate tone!

In the conclusion the author says, “I wrote this book because this book didn’t exist.”  I appreciate that this book exists and I hope that it helps people like me feel seen and understood.  I hope people who don’t identify as bi read this book and gain a better understanding of bisexuality.  I didn’t have a strong grasp on the history or culture of bisexuality when I was questioning, coming out, and even after.  This book gave me so much knowledge and things to think about.  The format is like an academic book, but written in accessible language, like a pop sociology/psychology.