a lot of things i already knew, as someone who has identified as bi for just about a decade, but a lot of new information as well. 

pros:
- i appreciated the author’s willingness as a white cis woman to acknowledge the sections where diverse data was lacking, and the areas of the popular bi community that are unfriendly to people of color, people with disabilities, etc 
- the research on sexuality in other species was interesting in the ways we often think of ourselves as special and distinct, forgetting that we are still animals and part of the “natural” world rather than separate from it 
- the section on having to prove your sexuality to be granted asylum was something i hadn’t considered before 

cons:
- less focus on homophobic politics in the US than i would’ve liked to see? it felt at points like the focus became how much worse it is in “peripheral” countries, and while i’m not denying that there is plenty of draconian anti-queer legislation in the world, it must be acknowledged that the US/UK aren’t exactly havens either. 
- the last chapters, while being an important area of discussion, are annoying to hear discussed only in the context of bisexuality. anyone of any orientation can be sexually liberal or conservative, can question whether monogamy is “enough” for them, but the difference for bisexuals is that people are always asking us WHY. still sorting through my thoughts on this one, but i generally am irritated when discussions of bisexuality seemingly necessitate discussions of fidelity, monogamy, or threesomes. you can have a threesome with all people of the same gender, for example. 

overall, interesting and validating and a good starting point for further research

It was interesting! just had to give it back to the Carlsbad library. Might get it again in the future

Ah, sweet feelings of validity.