Overall, this was a 4 star read for me. This plot was well-paced with characters that were interesting and well developed. Though I had a somewhat personal connection to the story, being a special needs parent myself, I think anyone will finish this book and wonder how they can better help family or friends who are raising a child who is "not typical".
At this book's core it is the story of a desperate family willing to try anything they can to help their daughter and sibling. Like I mentioned before, this was real life. There are parts that made me angry, parts that made me laugh, parts that made me cringe and parts that made my heart hurt with sadness. Though I didn't always agree with the parents choices and actions, I could understand that they did what they thought they had to. Who was I to judge a parent when I have never been in the situation they were presented with? I think Parkhurst did an excellent job portraying the challenges of raising a child on the autism spectrum.

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Harmony is about an autistic spectrum child named Tilly Hammond. She has a younger sister named Iris and her parents are Alexandra and Josh. Her parents are nearly at the end of their rope with regard to controlling Tilly's behavior. They meet a man named Scott Bean, who invites them to help him set up a camp in New Hampshire for families with special needs children. The story is told from the perspective of Alexandra and Iris, with some chapters from Tilly. The novel ends with an interesting twist. The novel is a good insight to families dealing with children with special needs.

This was really good. I had a sense of dread the whole way through, but didn't guess the ending.

The audiobook was outstanding. Review to follow.

Not a typical kind of read for me but I found it hard to put down. Excellent writing from the very start and the ending was not at all where I saw things going.

3.5/5 stars

You don't have to be a parent to moved by this gripping story of a loving family trying to do its best for its unusual child -- but I think any parent who reads Harmony will be both nodding in recognition and cringing at the pain suffered by the well-meaning parents and their two children.

Alexandra and Josh Hammond are happily married and the parents of two beautiful daughters. But as we first meet the family, daughters Tilly, age 13, and Iris, age 11, are in the back seat of the car as the family makes its way to New Hampshire, having given up their old lives in a last grasp towards normalcy at Camp Harmony.

Camp Harmony is the brainchild of Scott Bean, a charismatic family counselor who seems to have all the answers. And Alexandra is desperate. Tilly is incredibly smart, but she's wild and impulsive, full of tics and odd habits and obsessions, and lately has become a danger to herself. Even the last resort, super expensive private school for special needs children has finally said that they can no longer care for Tilly appropriately. When Scott Bean's "Harmonious Parenting" crosses Alexandra's radar, she becomes more and more convinced that Scott holds all the answers for her family. Ultimately, the family sells everything to invest, along with two other families, in Camp Harmony. The camp will provide a back-to-nature, holistic living experience, where the core families create a nurturing environment for all their children, then host paying families who come on week-long retreats in order to soak up the positive experience and bring it home with them.

Scott Bean is clearly slick and polished, but he's full of charm when he wants to be and it's easy to understand how a family with no other options might see him as a light in the darkness. And at first, he seems to have a magic touch with the kids, despite the families' hesitations over some of the camp rules, such as no electronics, no individual storing of car keys, no alcohol, and all sorts of work assignments and consequences for behavioral infractions.

We see the family's journey both through Iris's eyes, as she narrates events starting from the Hammonds' arrival at camp, and through Alexandra's, as she describes the bumpy history of her and Josh's child-rearing and Tilly's escalating veering off the rails. It's heartbreaking, truly, to see these good and decent parents doing the best they can, and still having no answers and feeling like they're losing the ability to even keep their child safe, much less nurtured and encouraged.

There's yet a third perspective sprinkled occasionally throughout the book -- Tilly narrates a few chapters, here and there, which describe an imaginary museum dedicated to Hammond family history. She takes an almost anthropological look at the society and culture of the time:

Either way, though, it was an intriguing period of history; the quaint euphemisms ("special needs," for example, and "on the spectrum"), the fearmongering and misinformation, the chaos caused by the lack of an agreed-upon medical and therapeutic protocol. The elders lingered on the era's rudimentary understanding of neuroscience, the dissent within the medical community itself as to nomenclature, classification, and diagnostic criteria. Celebrities giving advice based on superstition, rather than medical fact. The worry that a child's natural inclinations and tendencies might become more destructive if left untreated. Parents seemed to be afraid of their own children's brains.

Wow. That last sentence hurts my heart.

Author Carolyn Parkhurst has a way with words that is powerful and descriptive. She makes the reader care about these people. For the story to work, we have to sympathize; we have to understand how a normal, sane set of parents could end up sucked into a situation that revolves around a charismatic leader with increasingly bizarre rules and tests for loyalty. Sounds cultish? Yup, it does. But the wonder of Harmony is that we can see it happen, and even as we tell ourselves that they should have seen it coming and we would never allow ourselves to get sucked in like that... well, how do we know? For people at the end of their rope, desperate measures may not seem so crazy after all.

Importantly, for this story to really work, I think it's important that we care about Iris and Tilly as individuals, and the book gives them powerful, wonderful voices. The girls are clearly bright and full of passion. Tilly is amazing. Yes, she would drive you crazy if she was your big sister, and I can't imagine having to deal with some of her more extreme behavior, such as her non-stop sexual comments or her unpredictable meltdowns. But at the same time, she's powered by an inner curiosity and light, and we're left hoping that her life may improve, that she'll find a way to transition from her difficult adolescence into someone who can function in a demanding world.

As I mentioned, the writing in Harmony is just beautiful. The descriptions of the land, the family dynamics, the fears and hopes of new parents, and the blossoming and maturing of love within a marriage are all so lovely. Here's a small moment at a wedding, as the DJ has all married couples start a romantic dance, then calls off the years until only the longest-married couples remain:

You're still safe; it's fifteen years since you stood where that girl in the white dress is standing. Here's what you have in common with the couples still moving around you: you know, all of you, what these newlyweds are in for, these starry-eyed fledglings who think this is the moment where everything good begins. You're dancing alongside veterans of wars and miscarriages and a thousand day-today disappointments. You cling to your husband, happy in his arms until it's time to move to the side, to make way for couples who have lived through even more.

Harmony is an unusual, lovely, disturbing, emotionally wrenching book about families and love. Check it out.

This review can also be found at Bookshelf Fantasies.

I loved some things about this book and I didn't like others. I really identified with Alexandra, the mother of Tilly and Iris, and thought the parts that were from her point of view were right on target. I wasn't crazy about Tilly, the autistic/asperger's character who seems almost malicious in her desire to make everyone uncomfortable through her sexual comments. It just seemed a bit out of place, and although I've met quite a few kids with high functioning autism, I haven't ever met anyone like her. Of course, I'm sure the author based it on something or someone. The story has to do with the desperation and helplessness parents of children with special needs often feel, and how several families fall prey to someone who claims to be more than what he is. Sometimes the desire for answers can make us especially vulnerable.

SUCH a great book. Remarkably good at capturing adults' and children's POVs in a story about a family that comes to help start a camp for kids with personality disorders. Vivid writing and jarring and wonderfully and emotionally wrenching turns of plot. There were some backstory holes I wish had been filled but this is such a great example of personally flawed characters written in such a way that I want to follow their stories and know more. A masterclass of a novel.