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Emotsionaalselt ebaküpsete vanemate pärand by Lindsay C. Gibson

23 reviews

quotablehedgehog's review against another edition

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challenging emotional hopeful informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

3.25

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pho_ar's review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative inspiring reflective medium-paced

5.0

 I think this book is an empathetic look at emotionally immature parents and how their adult children can navigate these relationships. I think that this book is a good overview and a good jumping off point for continued reflection and work towards navigating emotionally immature parents and healing your past with them.
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mads_reads_books's review against another edition

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emotional informative reflective sad

5.0

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julleah's review against another edition

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challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

4.0

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glitterdeww's review against another edition

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informative reflective fast-paced

4.0

An informative read that can shed light on past and present relationships.  While the author does mention various aspects of mental health and neurodivergence, the book sticks so closely to the concepts of emotional maturity that I felt some nuance may have been lost while discussing all that makes up an individual person. Some of the examples felt a bit black and white, also shirking nuance for the sake of a crystal clear analogy. 
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kateywaldhart's review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative medium-paced

4.5

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glassdanse's review against another edition

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challenging hopeful informative reflective fast-paced

5.0

I think a lot of people would benefit from reading this, even if they themselves are not the children of emotionally immature parents. it isn't an easy read for sure, it made me cry many times and brought up some painful memories. equally, it felt freeing to be so validated, to be finally able to describe my experiences and to get some tangible coping mechanisms for the future.
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hale7's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

3.75

Really helpful for people looking to understand their emotionally immature and/or malignant narcissist parents or guardians. Doesn’t hold enough nuance for people of the global majority. Most of the emphasis on the book is how to maintain a relationship with these parents, and didn’t spend enough time on adult children who have already done these steps and are needing to move to low/no contact. Attachment theory would be a helpful addition
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_fallinglight_'s review against another edition

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challenging informative reflective medium-paced

2.0

Too much ableism to take seriously and it got increasingly repetitive that I felt I was not retaining anything by the end bc I kept zoning out. It was revelatory though, that for all their faults, my parents were emotionally mature when it came to raising me and made me feel I mattered. Like my dad hits most of the emotionally immature, externalizer checklists (lol) but in general he was surprisingly attentive to me growing up and not in a manipulative way or anything like in some of the examples provided here. So I thought I was gonna end up trashing my parents but no, I'm actually surprised that they were PARENTS parents to me. Who knew? So my focus went on how this book is so ableist and dunks on neurodivergent people ridiculously a lot, why are people praising it so much? Also, when she starts describing externalizers vs. internalizers it felt like reading the horoscope and she kept referecing old, Cold War era studies. But after reading this part in the book, it's not surprising.
Human emotional immaturity has been studied for a long time. However, over the years it has lost ground to an increasing focus on symptoms and clinical diagnosis, using a medical disease model to quantify behaviors as illnesses suitable for insurance reimbursement. 
That sounds red flaggy to me idk. And to reach her hard set conclusions this dr. has to be super simplistic and conveniently ignores a bunch of social, racial, economic and mental factors. Like I don't pretend to know more than her but the book feels incomplete to me bc of that, but maybe I'm just talking out of my ass.
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challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

4.5

Great book! Provided a lot of language to help articulate my experience. Had a lot realizations. Would recommend and would read again!
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