This is a fantastic book for cis women looking to overcome hurdles in their sex lives. It tackles topics like shame, social influence, lack of desire, stress, and non-judgemental thoughts. The first half of the book is more theoretical, breaking down the concepts that the author—a sex therapist—uses to guide her clients, and the second half contains the more practical advice of how to get to a more fulfilling place with sex.

I found some of the concepts to be things that I knew in theory, but that I felt I had to continually prove to people in my live over the course of my relationships. It was validating to see things spelled out with evidence and science, and to know that I wasn't just making it up.

This is the first step of a long journey for me to take the shame and doubt out of my relationship to sexual topics, and to unlearn a lot of the nonsense that was put in my lap from the moment I was born.