I've never listened to the podcast these authors have, so picked up the book just for the subject of friendship. And a lot of things said about friendship in it are certainly good to think about. But it was funny reading it how constantly aware I was of how I would probably never had a place in the friendnetwork of either of these women. Not because of any major disagreements that I could see about politics or race or anything like that but just...their friend circle seemed so exhausting and expensive!

For instance, they talk a lot about how friendships can be both outward facing and inward facing, there's the way they look to others and how they really are inside. And I just found myself thinking that it seemed like they both had a very different idea of how outward facing friendships naturally were. Like...these two are a brand. Not just because they have a podcast together, but because they seem to see branding as a real part of friendship, starting with how you bond over what things you both know are cool and are not cool and what in-jokes you're in on. Thinking on it now, I feel like maybe if they weren't so invested in telling everyone how close they were, they could have avoided some problems.

Or no, you know what it more was? That the one thing that's never once in the book that I remember? How your friends can sometimes annoy you in ways that don't need to be and can't be talked through because they're not misunderstandings. They're just annoying things that ultimately you just accept and get used to and are still friends. I just realized that to read the book there's literally nothing they would ever good-naturedly roll their eyes at about the other. Like I said, just seemed exhausting.