Why are you rushing for answers? You should arrive at answers on your own, not rely upon what you get from someone else. 

It is only in social contexts that a person becomes an individual. 

Even if you’re not a loser, even if you’re someone who keeps on winning, if you are someone who has placed himself in competition, you will never have a moment’s peace. 

Intervening in other people’s tasks and taking other people’s tasks turns one’s life into something heavy and full of hardship. “From here on, that is not my task” 

What should one do to not be disliked by anyone? There is only one answer: It is to constantly gauge other people’s feelings while swearing loyalty to all of them. — unfree way to live 

If receiving praise is what one is after, one will have no choice but to adapt to that person’s yardstick and put the breaks on one’s own freedom. 

If one’s means for gaining a feeling of contribution turns out to be “being recognized by others” in the long run, one will have no choice but to walk through life in accordance with other people’s wishes. 

You are possibly rejecting normality because you equate being normal with being incapable. Being normal is not being incapable. One does not need to flaunt one’s superiority. 

But if life were climbing a mountain in order to reach the top, then the greater part of life would end up being “en route”. That is to say, “one’s real life” would begin with one’s trek on the mountainside and the distance one has traveled up until that point would be a “tentative life” led by a “tentative me”.