One of the reasons why Ernaux's writing is so powerful is her skill in capturing the essence of the human condition, which resonates with readers from all walks of life, enabling them to form a deep personal connection with her stories. Through her unique blend of introspection and relatability, Ernaux’s writing becomes a mirror through which we can see our own lives reflected.

Shame is a powerful and deeply ingrained emotion that can have a profound and lasting impact on one’s identity, often shaping how individuals view themselves and how they believe others perceive them. In this short memoir, Ernaux examines how one dramatic childhood experience of domestic violence within her family forever altered her perception of herself and her place in society, and further intensified her feelings of shame, making it impossible for her to conform to societal expectations.

Ernaux vividly portrays the social customs of her village, which adds to her sense of shame and alienation. The inflexibility of the Roman Catholic Church in her community only exacerbated her feelings of not belonging. The rigid expectations and moral standards imposed by the church clashed with Ernaux’s own experiences and desires, deepening her sense of shame. Furthermore, she takes the time to reflect on the discomfort and uncertainty she faced during puberty, a significant and transformative period in the life of any individual. The physical and emotional changes she experienced only served to intensify her sense of shame, leaving her feeling disconnected from her peers and incapable of conforming to societal norms, ultimately leading her to feel like an outsider, unworthy of acceptance. This internalized shame not only affected Ernaux’s relationships but also hindered her personal growth and pursuit of her dreams.

Shame is a painful emotion. However, it can serve as a wake-up call, motivating individuals to have a deeper understanding of themselves, make positive changes in their behaviour and strive for personal development.