The E-Arc of Loud: Accept Nothing Less Than the Life You Deserve was kindly provided by Netgalley in exchange for an honest review. This has not altered my opinion of the book.

Let it first be known that I am a huge fan of Drew Afualo and the work she does online. When I got my copy of this arc, the thing I was most excited for was learning more about Drew’s life and upbringing, i.e. the memoir part of the book, and it definitely delivered! Drew spends some time of her novel talking about pick-me-ism and how she was a pick-me girl herself when she was younger, which came as a surprise. She described pick-me-ism as “one woman leveraging her self-worth in exchange for a man’s affection, all at the expense of another woman” and mentions examples such as engaging in “not like other girls” behaviour and letting disrespectful behavior to slide just to be seen as “cool” and “chill”. I found this part of the book very interesting to read, because it is such a modern and current aspect of living as a girl and a young woman in today’s flavour of the patriarchy. What I mean by this is that pick-me-ism is something not often found discussed in other feminist books or memoirs, at least not in the ones I have read. I also found it interesting due to how much it resonated with my own experiences as a girl growing into womanhood. I fear we can all find the pick-me girl in us if we look hard enough.

However, the manual and manifesto parts of the novel are amazing as well! Drew writes about her life and her journey to becoming the loud, confident woman she is today in a very intelligent but at the same time accessible way. The book almost feels like reading a podcast episode, Drew’s voice is powerful and present and so entirely her. At first this threw me a little off, because it is very unlike the narrations I am used to reading. However, as soon as I got properly into the book I stopped being bothered by it. Drew writes about topics such as: body neutrality, rather than positivity, how it is a good thing if you are okay with dying alone rather than being ready to compromise on who you are just for human companionship from men, and how you are worth it, which is always a necessary thing to hear. Drew inspires her readers to look inwards and start searching for the sneaky tendrils of misogyny in their own hearts, and she inspires us all to work harder to empower and love ourselves as women and femmes in this “man’s world”.

I loved this book, and if there is only one thing to take away from it, I would say it is this: dare to be mean, dare to be loud, and dare to always be yourself!

Do yourself a favor and go read this book.