Knowing what I know about the authors' toxic relationships, I can no longer recommend this book to people exploring polyamory. Instead, I would like to recommend [b:Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life|34117681|Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator Uncommon Love and Life|Amy Gahran|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1486270340l/34117681._SY75_.jpg|55149225] and [b:The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love|28695539|The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory Everything You Need to Know About Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love|Dedeker Winston|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1475306150l/28695539._SX50_.jpg|48893307], which is a great start point even for people who don't identify as girls.