A review by hubes
Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters by Abigail Shrier

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Absolute drivel that is intellectually and morally bankrupt to an almost absurd degree.

The author will say anything sentence to sentence if she thinks it will awaken fear regarding trans youth and, what she understands more generally, as the moral degradation of today's youth aka moral panic. It doesn't matter if what she wrote in the previous sentence, paragraph, or chapter counters the point she's making now. It's only about the present point, no room for deep thought or reflection in these pages.

Some brief examples of many:

She makes clear in the intro that she respects trans adults (with a history of childhood gender dysphoria) who decide to (medically) transition. As such, she will use the correct name and pronouns of trans adults throughout the book (while refusing to do the same for youth because they don't know what they're talking about.) She does not, in fact, do this. She immediately follows it up by talking about a trans adult's life while solely misgendering and misnaming the person. When discussing the life of a nonbinary person in their late twenties she, again, refused to appropriately gender. She quite literally says "she uses they/them pronouns." As you may imagine, these are just two examples of countless instances of this behavior throughout the book.

Early on she discusses how gender ideology cuts bodies into very specific parts and how limiting that perspective is. She claims that only hyper feminine women are seen as women and tomboys (and even lesbians) don't exist today. They just transition as trans men and nonbinary people. Despite these beliefs, she mocks trans men for "shrieking" out of joy and claims that this is a deeply feminine thing to do and connects this to what she sees as the farce of transition. She has an unhealthy obsession with phalloplasty and is concerned that trans men aren't seeking this operation in droves (though she of course reverses course later on to discuss potential dangers and complications of the surgery). Her obsession is purely driven by her understanding men as absolutely needing to have traditionally male genitalia. When stepping back from this one specific aspect of some people's transition, she often returns to the idea of how disturbing it is that many trans youth and adults aren't worried about "passing." And yet, it's (trans) gender ideology that is forcing kids and adults to tight, ill fitting boxes. 

The book is so far removed from demonstrating critical thinking that the author makes claims that (trans) gender ideology is why people are aware of and talk about gender stereotypes. She bemoans a disappearance of high school bathroom blow jobs and muses on how kids may be better off if they smoked a cigarette instead of talking to a mental health professional.

This book is for two types of people. The first group is for people who are terrified of trans people and refuse to accept the idea of sexuality and gender as being fluid. This group will hear exactly what they hope to hear and already believe. The second group consists of people looking to better understand the thought process and logic of those in the first group. At least in my case, I was in the latter group because my parents are in the first group. This book, at least, collects a lot of different strands of anti-trans rhetoric in one convenient place. Of course, you could gather the exact same information after a cursory scroll of any social media platform with popular anti-trans hashtags and rhetoric. I could also talk to my parents to hear the same things repeated word for word, but I find it to be less painful with an additional degree of separation. 

It's no mistake that a book capitalizing on and furthering a moral panic is the author's first book despite a long career of writing. 

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