I had a lot of problems with this book, but I'll just say the one thing I haven't seen written about by other reviewers.

I love a good found family storyline, but I didn't love the tone deafness of Paulie, a white character from a not-at-all-marginalized population whose family tree is extremely accessible, calling wanting to know about your ancestors "evil." There was no discussion or consideration of how Black, Jewish, and other groups whose family histories were purposely erased through slavery, genocide, etc, would actually very much like to know their family trees but can't (at least not without a ton of money or the help of Henry Louis Gates).

It's very nice for Paulie (and I'm guessing the author) to decide that found family is more important, and for some people that is true, but Paulie is coming from a place of enormous privilege, and I wish that were at all acknowledged.