Fun story-- one of my dear friends basically threw this book at me in a used bookstore and forced me to buy it. She thought it was a self-help book that would cure my perfectionism. It is not that. It is a memoir. And it's a dang good memoir too-- poignant and so, so funny. Gay's turns of phrase are some of the greatest bits of writing I've seen in a while, and he has pretty solid advice in here too. It's a fun read that tugs at your heartstrings. It reminds you of how beautiful and chaotic and unpredictable life is.