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A review by jasmine_rd
Social Intelligence: The New Science of Human Relationships by Daniel Goleman
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Notes for myself:
Social interactions are made up of conscious and subconscious.
Afterglow of intreractions. All interactions cause us to feel differently. Tone of voice, synchronisation etc = stimulates same areas in our brain = feel it too -> subconscious
Rapport
Feel the others warmth, understanding, genuineness.
a) mutual attention - same focus, like glue.
b) mutual empathy - know the other person fully understands cos feels part of what you are feeling.
c) shared positive feeling - tone of voice, facial expressions.
d) well coordinated non-verbal duet - similar pace of convo and body movements, eg sitting up straight vs slouching. On the same wavelength. Match mood and pace.
The more 2 people subconsciously synchronise movements = feel more positively about each other and the interaction - going in synch. Doesn't work if deliberate/ conscious.
We feel pain when seeing someone else suffer cos same regions activated when we see someone in distress = in order to urger us to act to alleviate their pain and our pain.
Profile of non verbal sensitivity
Reading the mind in the eyes test
'listening carefully with undivided attention orients our neural circuits for connectivity, putting us on the same wavelength. This increases the likelihood of synchrony and positive feelings (rapport).
Notes for myself:
Social interactions are made up of conscious and subconscious.
Afterglow of intreractions. All interactions cause us to feel differently. Tone of voice, synchronisation etc = stimulates same areas in our brain = feel it too -> subconscious
Rapport
Feel the others warmth, understanding, genuineness.
a) mutual attention - same focus, like glue.
b) mutual empathy - know the other person fully understands cos feels part of what you are feeling.
c) shared positive feeling - tone of voice, facial expressions.
d) well coordinated non-verbal duet - similar pace of convo and body movements, eg sitting up straight vs slouching. On the same wavelength. Match mood and pace.
The more 2 people subconsciously synchronise movements = feel more positively about each other and the interaction - going in synch. Doesn't work if deliberate/ conscious.
We feel pain when seeing someone else suffer cos same regions activated when we see someone in distress = in order to urger us to act to alleviate their pain and our pain.
Profile of non verbal sensitivity
Reading the mind in the eyes test
'listening carefully with undivided attention orients our neural circuits for connectivity, putting us on the same wavelength. This increases the likelihood of synchrony and positive feelings (rapport).